I’m into a bunch of crazy sex stuff—Bondage, discipline, SM, voyeurism, the occasionally totally vanilla romp, and anything else that’s legal and not super gross—but the thing I’m most into is fun.
Nothing is more of a turn-off to me than a partner who is super-serious about sex/kink. Sure, a successful “scene” usually involves taking things seriously’ if I’m playing the role of the strict master, you’d damn well better pick up those clothepins with your teeth when I tell you to, but when the fireworks are over, even the most kinky, far out edge players are essentially just putting on silly-looking costumes and doing improv for each other. And that’s fun/funny.
Conclusion: People who take themselves too seriously are not sexy.